The Bible teaches that God has two institutions – the HOME and the CHURCH

     The Bible teaches that God has two institutions – the HOME and the CHURCH.  Nothing should be more important to a Christian than these two places, for they are ordained of God.  The Home and the Church are complementary.  The strongest home is one that is built around a church, and the strongest church is one that is made up of families who attend regularly and serve God faithfully.  Christ and His church are a focal point for spiritual growth, for fellowship, and for family activities.  Faithful attendance to the local church by committed believers makes the church an ideal place for building family unity.  There is a mutual benefit for both families and the church.  It is little wonder, then, that Satan’s arena of diabolic activity is in our homes and in the churches.  This is truly an age when many “homes are on the rocks – instead of on ‘THE ROCK’.”  The Bible is a very practical book and has much to say about the home.  God has a definite blueprint for your family, your home.  Rather than attempting an exhaustive study, this lesson will identify some godly principles for you to follow.



Open your Bible to Genesis 2:15-25 and read this passage carefully.

A.     What did God say was not good for man?


B.     How was the first woman made?


C.     In this passage, God says the woman is to be an H__ __ __ M__ __ __ for the man. (This means that the woman completes the man; she is a “helper suitable” to him.)

        The word “help meet” is from the Hebrew word “ezer”, which means “aid”.

D.     In marriage, what is the couple to leave?


E.     In marriage, what is the couple to become?


F.     Look up Matthew 19:4-6. What did the Lord Jesus Christ say concerning the permanency of the marriage relationship?



G.    Look up Romans 7:1-3.  According to God’s plan for marriage, the bond of marriage was to be broken by D__ __ __ __ .

H.     Look up Hebrews 13:4a.  What two things does God say are honorable?

1.     M__ __ __ __ __ __ __ .

2.     The bed U__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ (i.e., marital intimacy).

I.      According to Hebrews 13:4, what does God judge?

W__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ (fornicators)

A__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

God is serious about sexual purity!

A couple may live together or sleep together and be justified in the eyes of many, but God says He will judge such activity.  Our world is obsessed with sex; God’s people live by a higher standard.  The pornography publisher maintains that, “Sex is a function of the body, a drive which man shares with animals, like eating, drinking, and sleeping.  It’s a physical demand that must be satisfied.  If you don’t satisfy it, you will have all sorts of emotional and mental problems.  Sex is here to stay; let’s forget the prudery that makes us hide from it.

Throw away those inhibitions, find a girl whose like-minded and let yourself go.”  A thoughtful person will see the foolishness of such statements, such as, extramarital pregnancies, forcible rapes, illegitimate births, and venereal diseases of all sorts.  Sex is not just a biological function; it is an intimate and emotional oneness that God designed a married couple to have as they raise a godly family.


2.     Follow God’s Word on this matter!

(Ephesians 5:3) “But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;”


A.     To C__ __ __ __ __ unto his wife (Genesis 2:24).
B.     To L__ __ __ his wife

(Ephesians 5:25).

C.     A husband’s love for his wife is to be the same as:

1.     C__ __ __ __ __’s love for the C__ __ __ __ __

(Ephesians 5:25).

2.     Men’s love for their own B__ __ __ __ __ (Ephesians 5:28).

D.     To P__ __ __ __ __ __ for his wife (1 Timothy 5:8).

E.     To give H__ __ __ __ __ to his wife.  She is to be valuable to you. (1 Peter 3:7).

F.     To render due B__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ to his wife.  Benevolence is giving without expecting anything in return. (1 Corinthians 7:3).

G.    To D__ __ __ __ __ ___ not his wife (1 Corinthians 7:5).  This is referring to the physical intimacy of marriage and that the wife or husband is never to use intimacy as a means of punishing your spouse or withholding to get something from your spouse.

H.     The husband is to be the H__ __ __ of the wife and the home (Ephesians 5:23.)

This has nothing to do with being a “dictator,” but it means he is to be in the place of leadership.  Both the husband and wife are equal in quality, worth, and in many other ways.  Each may have strengths over the other.  Headship given to the man is a functional position.  It is God’s chain of authority.  Every institution has to have leadership.



A.     To S__ __ __ __ __ to her husband in his exercise of leadership in the home (Ephesians 5:22).

B.     To R__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ her husband or greatly respect him. (Ephesians 5:33)

Never criticize your husband in the presence of others.

C.     To G__ __ __ __ the household. (1 Timothy 5:14)

Can a woman work outside the home?

The Bible does not teach it is wrong for a woman to get a paying job, especially in a time of need, but her first priority is to be a home-maker.  When a job causes a wife to neglect her husband, and a mother to give second best to the children – she ought to quit her job and trust the Lord!  God never intended for children to be left in the care of others while their mother worked outside of the home.  Materialism and career “peer pressure” are what usually drives a woman to leave her children for others to raise while she works outside the home.  A mother that has forsaken her role as a mother for the sake of material possessions or career has forsaken God’s privilege of having the greatest influence on this world by raising godly children.

D.     If your husband is not a Christian, follow the teaching of 1 Peter 3:1.


“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word (the Bible), they also may without the word (without you nagging or pressuring them) be won by the conversation (godly behavior) of the wives;”

The word “conversation” in this verse means a “godly manner of life.”

Do I have to obey my unsaved husband?

Though he may not be a spiritual leader, he is still the leader of the home.  God has given the man the position of leadership, but when spiritual matters conflict with what man demands, we are “…to obey God rather than man.”  To help you evaluate your own motives and attitudes seek the counsel of a GODLY friend as a safeguard to rejecting your husband’s authority.  Never push the Bible “down his throat.”  Instead, seek to be a “living Gospel” to him by following the Scriptural pattern above.  Earnestly pray for your husband and love him.  Ask the Lord to open opportunities for you to witness to him or invite him to the church meetings.

E.     To D__ __ __ __ __ __ not her husband (1 Corinthians 7:4,5).

Note: The physical union of marriage is intended for the intimate pleasure of both husband and wife.  Never use this part of your marriage as a “bargaining chip” with your husband.  Husbands and wives must work together in this area to achieve both understanding and harmony.



A.     Children are the Lord’s H__ __ __ __ __ __ __

(Psalm 127:3).

B.     Parents (not school, not baby-sitters, not television) are responsible to T__ __ __ __ up their children (Proverbs 22:6).

C.     Fathers are responsible to bring their children up in the N__ __ __ __ __ __ and

A__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ of the Lord

(Ephesians 6:4b).

The word “nurture” means discipline.

1.     Children require discipline and should be taught this in the home.  It will take disciplined character on the part of the parents to accomplish this.

a.     Children should be taught to OBEY without question, and when necessary, without waiting for an explanation.

b.     Obedience must be instant and without argument.

c.     For character building, parents should allow no exceptions to this rule.

2.     Children should be taught to work.  In their first year they can be taught to pick up clothes and toys.

3.     Children should be taught regular habits for happiness and usefulness.

a.     They should go to bed at regular times without complaint.

b.     They should have good habits of personal hygiene.

c.     They should be trained to be orderly and neat.  Parents have to set the example!

d.     Their television watching should be very carefully controlled and limited.  Children should never be permitted to watch television apart from parental supervision!

e.     They should be taught responsibility for personal actions.

f.      They should be disciplined in love when disobedient or rebellious.

4.     Children need to be taught the art of living peaceably with others at home.

a.     No fighting should be allowed.

b.     They should respect the possessions of other family members (including their parents) and not take what is not their own.

c.     They should be taught to share their property.

d.     They should be taught to forgive and to ask for forgiveness.

e.     They should be taught respect for others in general (parents, elders, those in authority, peers, etc.).

5.     Children should be taught the right use of money.

a.     When old enough, they should earn some money of their own (but not for doing things they ought to be doing anyway, such as making their beds or cleaning up their rooms).

b.     They should be taught to tithe and give offerings to the Lord.

c.     They should be taught how to spend money wisely.

d.     They should be taught to save.

6.     Children need, and should have, time with their                        parents.

a.     They should have “special” times with each parent and special times with the entire family together.

b.     Parents should lead their children in such a way that in time they can win that one to Christ.

All of the above spell TIME and WORK.

That’s what it takes!  Most modern-day parents are too lazy (selfish) to give the time and put in the consistent effort to raise godly children — they want instant results, or to let others do it for them.  Determine here and now that you will follow God’s pattern, and dedicate yourself to its consistent application while you have children in the home!

D.     See your children as they really are in God’s sight.

Look up Proverbs 22:15a and Psalm 58:3: we are all born with a “sin nature.”

E.     Read God’s provision for correction of children:

1.     The Father’s I__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __

(Proverbs 13:1).

2.     The R__ __ (Proverbs 22:15b).

F.     Much of today’s humanistic philosophy says it is wrong to spank children, but God says it is necessary and right – provided . . .

1.     The rod is applied to the right place. Never strike your child across the face, chest, back, etc.  Apply the “board of education” to the “seat of learning.”

2.     The rod is applied in love (Proverbs 13:24b).

Never spank your children in anger or to vent your frustrations.  Send your child to his room and wait for a few minutes to think things through.  Then communicate with him why he is going to be disciplined.  After the spanking reassure him of your love.

3.     The rod is applied early in life (“...while there is                        hope...” -- Proverbs 19:18).

4.     The rod is applied effectively (Proverbs 19:18). Children will cry with a proper spanking.  They may also do their best to make you feel bad or guilty – don’t spare it!  Children need to be disciplined for bad behavior.  When discipline is applied, freedom from guilt is possible.

5.     The rod is applied consistently.  Don’t spank for wrongs the child didn’t know about.  Don’t spank for last week’s wrongs.  Spank as close to the time of misbehavior as possible to insure maximum learning and effectiveness.  DON’T EVER NOT SPANK WHEN YOU SAID YOU WOULD!

6.     There is a time of loving and prayer soon after the rod has been applied.  Never apologize for spanking, rather, assure the child of your love (Proverbs 13:24a).




A.     H__ __ __ __ __ thy father and thy mother

(Exodus 20:12).  The word “honour” means to consider them to be valuable.  When something is valuable, you take care of it, protect it, provide for it, and respect it.  It means to obey with the right attitude,

B.     Listen to your parents’

I__ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ __ (Proverbs 13:1).

C.     O__ __ __ your parents (Ephesians 6:1).


“In the house of the righteous is much treasure.” (Proverbs 15:6)

A.     Look up Ephesians 4:31-32.  List the six things that need to be put out of your family and home:

1. ____________________________________           

2. ____________________________________           

3. ____________________________________           

4. ____________________________________           

5. ____________________________________           

6. ____________________________________           

B.     From the same verses list the three things you need to have there:

1. ____________________________________           

2. ____________________________________           

3. ____________________________________           

C.     Look up Deuteronomy 6:5-7.  What book and its teachings should be a constant part of your home?




D.     Look up Joshua 24:15f.  What was Joshua’s motto for his home?





One of the greatest blessings you can enjoy in your home is to have what is termed a “family altar.”  A family altar is a definite time, place, and event in the life of your home where the whole family meets around the Word of God — to read, to pray, to sing, to talk.  In our fast-moving society, it will be one of the most difficult things for you to do — but one of the best.

A.     The responsibility for the family altar

This responsibility rests upon the F__ __ __ __ __.

(See: Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21; 1 Peter 3:7; 1 Corinthians 14:35)

B.     How to establish your family altar

1.     Decide upon the most suitable time for your home. If appropriate, call a family conference to make this decision.

2.     Make a definite commitment to the Lord to establish your family altar.  Plan to stick to it.

3.     Work out a plan of Bible reading and devotional material.  This will vary depending upon the age of any children.  Talk to your pastors and church leaders if help is needed in selecting some good material.

4.     Do it!  Right away!  Then be ready to resist the Devil as he throws his fiery darts of opposition.

C.     Suggestions for a good family altar

1.     Always read a portion of Scripture.  The book of Proverbs is excellent for the family.

2.     Have a hymn or chorus “of the month.”  Learn it as a family.

3.     Use “prayer cards” for a family prayer time.

Make these up your self; and include your pastors, teachers, missionaries, church members, relatives, and the unsaved.

4.     Be brief.  It is far better to be brief and consistent.

5.     Involve the entire family.

6.     Use some variety.  Reading through a good Christian biography is one helpful adjunct.

7.     Keep it informal, Biblical, and open for suggestion and improvement.

8.     For younger children, acting out a Bible story is a fun and effective learning exercise.

Warning: Be careful that the atmosphere of your home is not different at family altar time.  That is hypocrisy and will harm your children greatly.

HELP!  Christian homes and marriages are NOT exempt from pressures and troubles.  There may be times when serious problems arise.  Always feel that you can confidently (and confidentially) speak to your pastors about such matters.  They know the Bible has the answers, and are more than willing to counsel with you.  But, be willing to accept Bible answers and principles over worldly "solutions"!